Gender Attachment

[Turkish]

D3 told me tonight that she misses Mommy. I validated her as usual, and said that she'd see mommy tomorrow (when Mommy violates my custody time by showing up to dance class when she could have easily packed D3's ballet shoes and given me the address--my poor boundaries). .

S6 (as of last week) said, "I just want to stay with Daddy forever, and not go back to Mommy's. Me and Daddy here, no Grandma (my BPD mom), just me and Daddy." Not sure what to make of this though I recognized kid triangulation.

I put them to bed and D3 clung to me, wanting me to lay down with her until she fell asleep. Their mom does this at their home. I'm trying to sever the co-sleeping, though if D3 (usually) wanders into my room at 3am, I don't take her back. S6 only comes in if he has a nightmare, usually, or gets up to pee. It's rare for him.

I'm wondering how much I should make of this, if anything.

[sweetheart]

Turkish in terms of your kids age and development, the recent introduction of grandma  into their lives, this all sounds really normal.