Things went relatively well with my partner today until I saw this text from Friday
Well as I suspected I should not be telling you how I feel... .I had sent you several txt yesterday morning along with an email which you did not respond to accept now and your response was in the form of a correction... .I really did not share this with you so I could be corrected. I thought rather as your partner we share these things with each other... .I will refaine as you describes this as a complaint... .I really do not need support so since you do not have any interest in how I am doing, there is no need for me to express this. Glad we could clear that up
No I did not respond to it. I had actually set my partner's phone to junk after I blocked him on Friday so that's why I got it today.
We did have a couple of little bumps today. My daughter was in the ER again today and at one point a social worker had to talk to her so I had to walk away and the area I walked into was a no cell phone area so I hung up when my partner stopped talking. Its more like there was an awkward silence that lasted too long so I hung up because I was in a public place.
He said the funniest thing to me today that set me off, I didn't tell him set me off, he simply sent me a text with the word "pedicure" in it. I was like "huh?" and he was like "its what I'm going" I was like "what?" He said "doing".
I don't know why but it bothered that he thought I needed to know he was giving himself a pedicure. My daughter was in the ER today and he's telling me he's giving himself a pedicure? Ok. This was after I got home.
Anyways, tonight I was thinking about what it meant to be unstable. My partner's not mentally unstable, but he is emotionally unstable. If the conversation's not going his way and I end it he can very abruptly say "good night" without saying "I love you" but if I complain about it, I'm making a big deal. He did that and then texted me to say he updated his calendar, he hopes my daughter and I have a good day tomorrow and said good night again. I think he was baiting me to see what kind of response he could get out of me. Yep. And when I pointed out the fact he didn't say I love you he said "wow that was some trash". If I ever described his language as "trash" he'd get very upset with me.
I started thinking about that BPD trait of unstable relationships.
What does emotional stability in a relationship look like?
PS I just love it when my partner lectures me on what it means to be a partner while he's still married to another woman and living in another state.
Another thing I've been thinking about is I have trained to think its ok to unload on me, that my inbox, text message, and voice mail is there for his disposal. Is there anything I can do to change this?
