My takeaways are that I will continue to try an engage via text... .BUT...
What is the topic or issue? Once there is deviation I need to take a breath and decided to ignore or attempt a redirect.
Do I see a resentment or an "opinion" on the Bible or religious views? FF pulls ejection handle
I think you remember the question I've asked myself and suggested you ask yourself: "What possible good can come of this?"
Here's my take about texting with somebody who is prone to emotional overreactions and games (i.e. you with your wife):
Texting about simple logistical matters is reasonable, safe, and effective. (dog food, where a key is, what time somebody will be home for a meal, where kids need to be picked up.)
Texting cuts all the non-verbal cues out. Whether you are being validating or invalidating is kinda hard to figure out from there, and if your wife is LOOKING for one she'll find it there.
In person, when you are sincere and caring, that shows through, and she notices.
In person, she gives you all kinds of non-verbal cues about her mental/emotional state as well.
I suggest you avoid loaded topics -- relationship issues, theological debates (which your wife seems to use as a way of dealing with relationship issues), serious questions about child raising, or issues about what her FOO is doing, etc.
Save them for in person, or if it won't wait, talk voice on the phone.
Can you think of any instance where that went WELL by text message?
