So desperate to engage

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

DH is very good about not engaging with BPD mom much, but it feels like she will do whatever she can to get him to meet with her.  Filing CPS reports is her most recent tactic, and I am pretty sure with this last one, she called the supervisor to suggest that we all have a sit-down family meeting (with her included)--the supervisor kept saying that we need to get these false allegations to stop, and she seemed to think that if we all sat down to have a chat, it would be rainbows and butterflies. 

Now I don't have proof that mom asked for this, but why would CPS be so up front about HER being the one filing these crazy accusations, and, on top of that, the investigator felt that BPD mom was very excited about the idea of a family meeting.

I don't get it--does she just want to have DH's attention?  Does she think she is going to woo him with her craziness?  When I told our attorney about the CPS proposal, he said, "No effing way.  Absolutely not."  Fortunately, after I told CPS that this game has been going on for years--they are just late to the party--they decided to drop their stupid idea of a "family meeting"

[sanemom]

DH is very good about not engaging with BPD mom much, but it feels like she will do whatever she can to get him to meet with her.  Filing CPS reports is her most recent tactic, and I am pretty sure with this last one, she called the supervisor to suggest that we all have a sit-down family meeting (with her included)--the supervisor kept saying that we need to get these false allegations to stop, and she seemed to think that if we all sat down to have a chat, it would be rainbows and butterflies. 

Now I don't have proof that mom asked for this, but why would CPS be so up front about HER being the one filing these crazy accusations, and, on top of that, the investigator felt that BPD mom was very excited about the idea of a family meeting.

I don't get it--does she just want to have DH's attention?  Does she think she is going to woo him with her craziness?  When I told our attorney about the CPS proposal, he said, "No effing way.  Absolutely not."  Fortunately, after I told CPS that this game has been going on for years--they are just late to the party--they decided to drop their stupid idea of a "family meeting"

[Thunderstruck]

Yeah, have that family meeting... .just make sure it happens over there in family court. (Bring a pen to sign the CO!) 

I don't know, she probably feels like she lost her stronghold in family court and wants to find some more negative advocates. A "family meeting" with CPS would be a good opportunity for her to just accuse and blame. DH's head would be spinning from all the nonsense.

Oh, and she wanted to meet up with DH for SS's birthday too, right? Yeah, that's super weird!

uBPDbm has asked DH a handful of times to sit down with SD and have a family dinner. He has given her a resounding HECK NO. Um, after 3 false restraining orders... .no friggin way. Besides, if she is so "afraid" of him then why would she want to have dinner with him? 

I never know "why" uBPDbm does anything she does. DH says the answer is simple: she's sick.

[Nope]

Sounds like she is desperate for his attention. Also sounds like CPS was ready to coddle her by giving her exactly what she wanted in the hopes that would get this to stop. Stuff like that is a prime reason nobody trusts CPS. They don't seem to "get it" and if they aren't carefully guided and navigated they can wreck havoc on a family. Had BPDm found the CPS involvement effective in getting her that meeting she would have continued doing the one thing that worked to get more.