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« on: May 15, 2016, 02:48:09 AM »

Hello,

My beautiful, intelligent 20 year old daughter was diagnosed with BPD over a year ago. Since that time she has been locked into a destructive cycle of suicide attempt, hospitalisation , seeming improvement and then a further suicide attempt. She has been sectioned several times and is currently in our local mental hospital having tried to take her own life again last Monday. I would be so grateful to hear from other parents and learn from their experiences.

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« Reply #1 on: May 15, 2016, 02:29:06 PM »

Hello Ess,

Welcome to the Parenting Board dear.

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter is in hospital for an attempted suicide.  It is so very sad.

When my d made suicidal threats it was very disturbing and I always took it seriously.  Thankfully she was diagnosed at a young age and I never had to deal with a real attempt that was life threatening.  She has gone through spells of preferring death to the current situation she would find herself in while also being verbal about not wanting to take her life.  She has learned the skills to cope.

Has your d20 ever been in long term outpatient therapy?  Did it seem to help her while she attended?  If so, what kind of therapy was it and did you learn the same things she was learning?

When my d was inpatient and in RTC I had such a sense of relief that I knew she was safe during that time.  Please take advantage of this time where she is under the watchful eyes of staff, get some rest and take a break from the worry and fear that you live with daily.

Please know that we are here to offer support and hope to you and your family.

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« Reply #2 on: May 15, 2016, 03:45:25 PM »

I am sorry you are going through this too.  My son is currently in a local acute hospital right now and I wish I had the answers on how to help our children get better.  My son (16) attempted suicide last week and nearly succeeded in ending his life with a medication overdose.  He had only been out of a residential program for a little over a week and was doing really well for the week and then crashed to the point of being suicidal in one day.  I know if I can't find the right help he will die by suicide in the future.  I hate this because he is so smart and funny and talented and should be enjoying his life but he is stuck in this cycle of negative thoughts and suicidal ideation.  I don't know if you have a faith but today in church the scripture was about love... .Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  My son asked me last night if he messed things up so bad that I would stop loving him or give up on him.  I told him I would never stop loving him or give up on him no matter what he did.  I might be mad or hurt or frustrated or tired or need a small break, but there is nothing he could do to lose my love for him.  And then I was reminded at church that love bears all things.  I will endure with him until he is better or until he is gone from earth.  I can only walk with him through this... .not having all the answers.  Not knowing how to help.  My heart breaking watching him in the pit of despair and I can't fix it for him.  Blessings to you as you walk this cruddy path with your daughter. 
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