HEY HANGING:
Are you and your husband in individual or joint therapy? If not, perhaps it is time to get some help. Sounds like you need a littler professional help to deal with your current situation.
Unfortunately, we can't change others. We can only control how we interact, react and handle our own emotions. If he is picky and critical, he will likely be that way his entire life. My dad was picky and critical. He had his soft moments and threw out occasional complements, but he was controlling. He was what he was. I couldn't have imagined ever working with him in a family business.
It might be helpful to look through your options for short-term remedy and then perhaps long-term resolution:
- Maybe you can convince your husband to take a break from the family business right now and temporarily replace him.
- Are there friends and/or relatives that are willing to help you out, perhaps on a part-time basis?
- Perhaps you husband is in the midst of depressions and needs some treatment for that?
Always good to have a back-up plan in place, when you have a business.  :)o you have anything like that? It can be a lot harder to do with a family business, but a rainy day will always come. It is just a matter of when.
Can you reach out and get some professional help?