I hate losing good friends

[FallBack!Monster]

I hate losing good friends, to death, relocation, or for any other reason. Is that maybe the same reasons why pwBPD hate losing "supply".

[Lucky Jim]

Hey FallBackMonster,

No, in my view their fear of abandonment is a different kettle of fish from the normal grief we all experience in the event of death of, or separation from, family and close friends.

LuckyJim

[FallBack!Monster]

40 views one reply. Wow! Must not be an important topic. However, thank you. Can you elaborate?
 
When I lose a partner, close friend or someone in my life died, it knocks me off of my center.  Even a bad break up where someone was disloyal, I  no longer want or need that person to be a part of my life. But I may still keep in touch now  and then,  I guess , until I no longer see a need for the involvement . That's why I wonder . I don't think I'm the only non that feels that way. & Do you see the similarities?

[Lucky Jim]

Hello again, FBM,

Sure, in my view it's normal to be temporarily knocked off one's center after the loss of a loved one or close friend.

Their fear of abandonment, however, in my view, is a pervasive condition for a pwBPD rather than a temporary reaction to loss.  Maybe some of the feelings are similar, though, as you suggest.

LuckyJim