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Can "emerging BPD" or " BPD traits" be stopped from developing into full BPD?
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So as I wade through my next batch of books just arrived from Amazon , I find myself wondering if there is any chance at all that we can prevent my DD from developing full blown BPD or is that just wishful thinking ?
Does anyone have any experience or thoughts on this?
Ps next batch of books look pretty good ! The first one I'm going to start reading this afternoon is "The essential family guide to Borderline Personality Disorder" by Randi Kregar
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Hi Yep,
I'm another reader
Did you order Blaise Aguirre's book on Adolescence and BPD? That's another good one.
My son (15) was dx'd with anxiety/depression, ADHD, ODD, and then a few years later OCD. His dad is bipolar/BPD with OCD traits, and I felt we were lining my son up for full-blown BPD. S15 had suicidal ideations at age 9 and I take it as a good sign that he seems to no longer go there.
He still struggles but I took a hail mary approach and threw myself into learning what I could, mostly to change my behavior. I've had to read each book twice.
He's now seeing a T who does mentalization therapy with him and there have been some real breakthrough moments tho we are still a long ways to go. My son also internalizes, which in some ways is not as hard as being raged at, though perhaps a little more concerning in that it can be hard to tell what he's feeling.
What other books are you reading?
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Yes, it is quite possible. Time is of the essence though... .coupled with much hard work of using skills consistently and altering the trajectory that her current belief system dictates.
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I have read the Adolescence and BPD good by Blaise Aguirre yes . That's probably one I'll read a second time !
amongst my latest batch , I also bought another book by Blaise Aguirre called " Mindfullness for Borderline Personality Disorder" and I also bought the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Skills Workbook " by Mathew McKay, Jeffrey Wood and Jeffrey Brantly . I am developing quite the library ! Im going to give myself a couple of nights break though from reading . I tend to read mostly at night when I'm in my bed and I'm finding that in doing so , im giving myself disturbed dreams and not getting a good night sleep at all right now .
My DD is very much like your son . She doesn't rage and so far hasn't done anything that would be considered " delinquent " by the General public . She internalizes everything and doesn't open up at all which makes her very difficult to read . We think one minute that everything is going swimmingly then in the next sentence we are back visiting her in the adolescent unit the main issues of late over the last three or four weeks are the extent of her self harm ( she had managed to stop completely for a couple of months ) and her reluctance to go to / be remotely interested in working with her therapist .
Quote from: livednlearned on August 01, 2016, 10:12:44 AM
Hi Yep,
I'm another reader
Did you order Blaise Aguirre's book on Adolescence and BPD? That's another good one.
My son (15) was dx'd with anxiety/depression, ADHD, ODD, and then a few years later OCD. His dad is bipolar/BPD with OCD traits, and I felt we were lining my son up for full-blown BPD. S15 had suicidal ideations at age 9 and I take it as a good sign that he seems to no longer go there.
He still struggles but I took a hail mary approach and threw myself into learning what I could, mostly to change my behavior. I've had to read each book twice.
He's now seeing a T who does mentalization therapy with him and there have been some real breakthrough moments tho we are still a long ways to go. My son also internalizes, which in some ways is not as hard as being raged at, though perhaps a little more concerning in that it can be hard to tell what he's feeling.
What other books are you reading?
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And there's the rub lbj, unfortunately my DD 16 isn't prepared to do the work right now , she's just paying it lip service . Maybe as she matures , she'll see things differently. I can but hope !
I found out today that there is an excellent DBT intensive outpatient therapy program running only 15 miles from where we live , but it's for 18 and over which is disappointing. I found out about this group from a lady with Bipolar who attends a support group I go to and she said it was excellent , and the single most helpful treatment approach she has ever participated in , hands down , over her years of mental illness . At least I know that it's there and can hope that my DD might be more interested in participating when she's older .
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Yes, it is quite possible. Time is of the essence though... .coupled with much hard work of using skills consistently and altering the trajectory that her current belief system dictates.
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We were in the same boat when my d was 13. 2 yrs of constant outpatient therapy was not enough to turn her around. We chose longterm residential. No regrets there.
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Quote from: Yepanotherone on August 01, 2016, 07:23:26 PM
My DD is very much like your son . She doesn't rage and so far hasn't done anything that would be considered " delinquent " by the General public . She internalizes everything and doesn't open up at all which makes her very difficult to read .
My partner's D19 is bipolar/BPD and she is this way too, very hard to read. It makes it hard to validate her feelings when it's hard to tell what they are.
Both my partner and I practice mindfulness, and he has tried to get his D19 to do it too. She finds it extremely uncomfortable, and I am curious if DBT training has anything to suggest for introducing it in a way that we may have overlooked. When a pwBPD is very very needy and afraid to be alone, I can see how meditating might be scary because it recreates that feeling of aloneness they want desperately to avoid.
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Happy reading Yep, I also read and research, my 27d is a quiet, this last year we are getting on the same page and it's SO brilliant. Yep, myd gradually developed BPD to 25/26, she personally accomplished much during that time. This is her time to recover, a good place for her and me is right now.
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