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adaw
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
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« on: September 19, 2016, 02:41:44 PM »

I know control, manipulation, gas lighting, lies and threats are ordinary and 'normal' trademarks. She know tries a new tactict looking for psychological disorders I suffer from. The problem being her reality is so twisted that she makes up the sysptoms and try to get my therapist to believe her. Two flaws her diagnoses is wrong and secondly I gave her a therapist I saw years ago. I keep my current therapist a secret from her to protect myself.
My point is she believes she is normal and wants me to be admitted.
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Family other
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« Reply #1 on: September 20, 2016, 09:11:08 AM »

Hi adaw,

Is there an end goal you want to focus on in terms of improving the relationship? It sounds like you understand your reality in clear terms.

She's on an emotional roller coaster. Do you feel that you're getting on the roller coaster with her? Do you want to learn skills to help you stay grounded? There are many lessons to the right ------> that can help. Have you had a chance to read anything that resonates with you?
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« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2016, 03:26:33 PM »

Adaw,

I have personal experience with this... .mine convinced herself after 1.5 ish years of therapy that she was well... .which unfortunately was not the case.  Fast forward 3 years and she has digressed and now has this distorted notion that I suffer from NPD which she has so freely posted on facebook.  I'd been dealing with this projection for years.
You are both in therapy obviously, and you are here on the deciding/conflicted board.  :)oes her distorted reality have any influence on your thought process in your decision?
I feel your pain... .and ultimate frustration with such projection... .sad, it's as if they are holding a mirror to their own soul and seeing us... .which isn't the way a mirror works.  
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