What's wrong with closure

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I'm tired of reading. So much to take in. I use to believe I was about action and not spend much time thinking but now all I do is think. 5 years down the drain. There's been others in the past and I mean others but my family thought she was my perfect match. She stood up to me and never allowed me to push her around. I'm getting off topic. Now she won't talk to me. She knows me I know she does. She knows I don't intend to hurt her but you can't spontaneously walk away from someone you've shared life with and not care.  I get the sociopathy NPD, fine but not one conversation or reply since.  Vanished, moved away leaving all her stuff behind. Why did you do it? is the question to ask with no expectations. A few months ago I was secure in my life, in my skin. It's embarrassing to let people at my work know we're not together. I lie about us still being together. I don't know what to say. The truth will only trigger more questions and I can't wrap my head around it all. I'm hoping she comes back like im hoping i keep my composure after what she has to say. Most of all I'm wishing for closure. I fear I will never see her again before I've completely moved on and no longer care to know of her. A mutual acquaintance ran into her and the new partner. Said she didn't appear happy. Said her eyes were dark and sad. Maybe he said that to soothe my pain. However he insisted she doesn't look well. I had to vent.

[FallBack!Monster]

I'm tired of reading. So much to take in. I use to believe I was about action and not spend much time thinking but now all I do is think. 5 years down the drain. There's been others in the past and I mean others but my family thought she was my perfect match. She stood up to me and never allowed me to push her around. I'm getting off topic. Now she won't talk to me. She knows me I know she does. She knows I don't intend to hurt her but you can't spontaneously walk away from someone you've shared life with and not care.  I get the sociopathy NPD, fine but not one conversation or reply since.  Vanished, moved away leaving all her stuff behind. Why did you do it? is the question to ask with no expectations. A few months ago I was secure in my life, in my skin. It's embarrassing to let people at my work know we're not together. I lie about us still being together. I don't know what to say. The truth will only trigger more questions and I can't wrap my head around it all. I'm hoping she comes back like im hoping i keep my composure after what she has to say. Most of all I'm wishing for closure. I fear I will never see her again before I've completely moved on and no longer care to know of her. A mutual acquaintance ran into her and the new partner. Said she didn't appear happy. Said her eyes were dark and sad. Maybe he said that to soothe my pain. However he insisted she doesn't look well. I had to vent.

[ArleighBurke]

I'm sorry you're hurting. Losing her would indeed be painful.

It sounds like she's made a clean break - and there is little hope she will return. Unfortunately we cannot control others - and sometimes we can't understand what goes through their minds. It sounds like it was quite sudden.

If she does want to come back to you - what would you do? Would you take her back? Would there be any conditions? Would you "date" again first to be sure? What are the chances she will hurt you again?