i am a retired special forces guy
You have found a safe place and a place that is full of "SMEs" (Subject Matter Experts) on various parts of dealing with a spectrum of behaviors, broadly labeled BPD traits.
I'm retired Naval Aviator. Like most military types, tend to like to "take action" and chafe at waiting. I like what I read that you are taking action with your physical activities and seeing P and EMDR. Quality steps for self care.
If your chain of command called you and told you to "take self care up to the next level", what would that look like?
If they asked what you could do to be kind and compassionate to yourself... .what would that look like?
There are several retired and ex military types around these boards.
I'll keep checking back to see where you are in the process.
Last thought: As you are aware in the military... .quality of training matters. Where are you at in your journey of discovering this world of BPD? Think of it as going to defense language institute to learn a totally weird language that makes no sense to you.
Back to my training point: The quality spread of BPD resources on the web is dramatic. My point is that bpdfamily is a solid site with good moderation/leadership. Goal is to educate you without telling you what decisions to make.
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