Theraputic Visits

[Mika1739]

Anybody have experience with court ordered theraputic visitation?  I have the kids full custody and BPD x is struggling to get a very simple therapy appointment set up.  Anyway our first appointment is soon.

[livednlearned]

Is she responsible for setting everything up?

If she does not manage to set it up, does that mean there is no appointment?

[ForeverDad]

While you don't want to give the impression that you're blocking her, you also need to be careful not to enable her to circumvent or even ignore the orders.

The court order is protection for you and the children.  With BPD, even little boundary exceptions tend to enable or encourage more boundary pushing.  Yes, there are times for exceptions but they should be few and far between.  If an exception continues and becomes the 'new normal' it will be hard to reinstate that boundary.

[livednlearned]

I don't have experience with therapeutic visitation, but I do have experience with a BPD ex who cannot do even the minimum requirements to establish a relationship with his child.  

It's tough.

It's tough either way you look at it, both are hard on the child.