Hello there ACEINAZ, glad you found us. The first thing you do is take a deep breath and relax the best you can. Your reaction is normal, you've been through some very difficult times and feeling overwhelmed is expected. Sounds like your husband is a great support, lean on him, learn about this illness together.
It may be a good idea for you and your husband to see a therapist so you may have a professional help guide you in your journey. Is that something you all have contemplated? Many here have found that to be a great avenue for direction.
This community can help as well, here you will learn you are not alone. Read through others stories, you'll be amazed how many... .are so similar. You can also get some helpful tips in those threads you read by the responses of others.
A key thing most of us have learned is we cannot change them, but we can change how we react to and communicate with our BPD's. To the right of this page you will see some tools and lessons. I cannot urge you enough to take your time and read over these... .and keep them as a guide as you go along.
In my own personal experience here, I found sharing to be very therapeutic, and I also saw, the more I shared the more I typically got in return. Feel free to post anything, thoughts, frustrations, questions, success, failure etc. We are here... .you have found the right place.
