husband of BPD / Bipolar wife

[Will3679]

My wife of 27 years has BPD / Bipolar. She is getting therapy and is on meds , but the relationship is so difficult. The ups and downs are so difficult for both of us. I'm trying to make a life out of it all... .

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[drained1996]

Hi Will3679,



Sorry to hear of your difficult situation, it's a familiar story around here.  You will find in reading the stories of others here that you are not alone. 
It can be very difficult when a loved one suffers from BPD and we understand that.  To the right of this page you will see some tools and lessons that can help you in your journey.
Have you sought out a therapist to help guide you through this process?  Many here have found a professional to be of great help.  I know I have. 
What are some of the day to day issues you find yourself struggling with?
Feel free to share any thoughts, feelings or questions.  You've found the right place for knowledge, understanding, and support.  We are here 

[Five28]

I've been married to my BPD wife for 36 years. I'd love to tell you that it gets better but in my case it seems to be getting worse as time passes. About 17 years ago we were going to separate, but my kids were in their teens and I didn't have the heart to leave them. I chose to stay, not just for them but in the hopes that we could work it out. If I had a time machine... .
I came to this site to learn how to minimize the craziness that I have to deal with on an almost daily basis. It wears you down and sucks out your very soul. You start doubting yourself, and sometimes wonder if all the nasty things she says are true. Then I remember that I am dealing with someone with a severe mental illness and regain my footing. Had I known this was in my future when I was single I'd either be married to someone else or would have never married. Walking on eggshells is not my idea of a good time.