Co-Parenting with BPD

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I leave in Germany and i happen to have dated a BPD manipulative stuck up psychopath (cant find the right words i am like a bubbling volcano as i type) well ended with TWO kids  and now she is on her verge of retribution... blocking and doing her possible best to ensure i end up in ___... .actually she is super violent and her madness pops of at any please all i want to do is save the kids from this monstrous hurricane is there any legal procedure... .look just advice's will be helpful pleeeaasseee BITTEE

[sucre]

I leave in Germany and i happen to have dated a BPD manipulative stuck up psychopath (cant find the right words i am like a bubbling volcano as i type) well ended with TWO kids  and now she is on her verge of retribution... blocking and doing her possible best to ensure i end up in ___... .actually she is super violent and her madness pops of at any please all i want to do is save the kids from this monstrous hurricane is there any legal procedure... .look just advice's will be helpful pleeeaasseee BITTEE

[ambivalentmom]

Good Afternoon,
     Welcome.  I am glad you found this site because there are a lot of resources and support here.  Also, be sure to read support material on this website regarding your situation.  There are also a lot of members (myself included) who have experience with BPD on a personal level with a lot of insight, but remember that only you will know your situation best and can be the only person to decide what you will do.

     I would like to list just a couple of things to get you started.  If you do not feel safe in the home or worried about the children's safety, seek help immediately.  If you can, start a diary to record your concerns and log specific events (someplace where she can't find it).  Finally, please tell us more if you can.  Is she diagnosed?  How old are your children?  Who else knows about her condition or the situation?  What specifically can we offer advice on?  I think the legal procedure you are looking for might be an emergency/temporary custody order or obtaining primary custody, but I would find a lawyer to learn more about what you want and what you can do (a lawyer who knows BPD).

     This site will be more useful in offering advice on understanding and working with the person with BPD.  You will need to be mindful that fighting for custody may trigger her to be more abusive or there may be possibilities of her trying to reconcile and being an amazing person/mom while trying to get you back.  Always report/record interactions if you can (find out legal requirements for recording).

     I know this is confusing, but I hope I have given you enough to get you started.  When you have specific things you are worried about or you just want to vent, we will try our best to support you.  Take care.