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Guess I have been having a relapse this week you might say. I miss her really bad and wonder if I conveyed things as I meant to at the end. Anyhow, I've noticed a lot of folks on here were in much longer relationships than mine. I know no one can predict the future, but I was curious if anyone had a pwBPD reach out after the pwBPD initiated a breakup?
As I've had time to work on healing, I still feel that I would be into continuing something if she wanted to. Of course, I know I must expect nothing and move on, but just been struggling a little lately and wondering if anyone had any stories about a short term r/l that ended once things got close/challenging.
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Vanx,
It's not uncommon for pwBPD to reach back out at some point in time to check if there is still a connection. I see where you would be willing to continue if she in fact does and would like the same. Have you taken the time to read the tools and lessons in the upper right hand margin of this page? These are designed to help you control situations that arise a little better, thus giving some possible improvement to the relationship. These tools and lessons are things that should also be used in all types of relationships.
You're correct that nobody can predict what may happen, and continuing to heal and work on yourself is a good path.
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Thanks drained! I have def read through the resources and found them helpful. I will def keep working to move forward. thanks!
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