Learning to Navigate yet keep Kids safe

[drumsauce]

After 16+ years of marriage, a son, two beautiful adopted kids, my wife and I are divorcing (final in a month).  BPD was mentioned by a neighbor (who is a MFT) based on her interactions with her, and after some reading, here I am.  I have 70% custody, work full time, while trying to co-parent with someone who has been diagnosed for depression (meds) and childhood sexual trauma... .and now I suspect it all has a root cause of BPD.

I still love her, but realize I have to keep kids and myself safe, as her irrationality and mood swings, anger, negativity, blame-shifting has worn us all down.  It is a $hitty season for sure.

Here to gather wisdom, find community, and get perspective with people who "get it"... .not everyone does.

Cheers

[takingandsending]

Welcome aboard, drumsauce. How are you doing? How old are your kids? Is your custody/parent plan signed and with court?

It's good that you are nearing the end of divorce process. I am in the beginning of it. Married 17 years, S5 and S11 with uBPDw. The irrational behavior, mood swings, explosive anger, blame is very wearing, and there is not a bottom to it. My wife was sexually abused as a child as well. Great lessons on this website for communication during the co parenting phase. Keep posting here. Really helps.