My ex absolutely hated her mother, it was one of the first things she told me, and indeed was something she told many people. Looking back it was very dysfunctional and a huge
. My ex treated her mother like crap, I mean really badly, avoiding seeing her, not answering the phone to her (even on Christmas day), blaming her for being a bad mother. Even being glad when some test results came back, which showed that her mother wasn't suffering from alzheimers, which must mean that her mother was just a bad person with bad behaviour. The lack of compassion or care was astonishing.
The worst thing is that with all this hate, she stayed attached. She even managed to get power of attorney over her mother's money. So they'll stay attached until her mother passes away. And during this time, my ex will have complete control.
My ex didn't do the shouting or raging thing, more the silent treatment or ignoring. Cold punishment for those she hated. It was turned on me after the discard, and then became stalking.
And this is the thing. Why stay attached to someone you hate? Why keep on punishing someone, even your mother at the age of 50?