Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
April 26, 2024, 09:32:12 AM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: Cat Familiar, EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Poll
Question: How do you rate this article?
Excellent - 1 (33.3%)
Good - 2 (66.7%)
Fair - 0 (0%)
Poor - 0 (0%)
Total Voters: 3

Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: PDF | Leaving a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder  (Read 2185 times)
heartandwhole
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 3592



« on: February 04, 2017, 09:48:43 AM »

Leaving a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder

"In all of our relationships throughout life, we will meet a variety of individuals with many different personalities. Some are a joy to have in our life and some provide us with life-long love and security. Others we meet pose some risk to us and our future due to their personality and attitudes. Both in medicine and mental health - the key to health is the early identification and treatment of problems - before they reach the point that they are beyond treatment."

This article is for those partners of someone with BPD who want a strategy to exit the relationship. Written by Joe Carver, PhD, the article describes the three stages of leaving—The Detachment, Ending the Relationship, and Follow-up Protection—and how to plan and manage each stage while minimizing drama and destructive cycles of behavior.

Logged


When the pain of love increases your joy, roses and lilies fill the garden of your soul.
Panda39
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner’s ex
Relationship status: SO and I have been together 9 years and have just moved in together this summer.
Posts: 3462



« Reply #1 on: February 04, 2017, 10:21:23 AM »

A lot of good advice on preparation (have a plan),  protecting yourself, de-escalating, and avoiding re-cycle.  How to control what you can control... .your behavior.

I gave this a "good" review not "excellent" because some of our situations particularly if children are involved are much more complicated than simply leaving a partner/spouse and some BPDx's will escalate the level of conflict no matter what you do. So IMO the article maybe does not go far enough to address more complicated or extreme situations.

Can the information in this article help? Absolutely! I hope members thinking of leaving or in the process of leaving read and implement the ideas presented here.

Panda39
Logged

"Have you ever looked fear in the face and just said, I just don't care" -Pink
Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Links and Information
CLINICAL INFORMATION
The Big Picture
5 Dimensions of Personality
BPD? How can I know?
Get Someone into Therapy
Treatment of BPD
Full Clinical Definition
Top 50 Questions

EDITORIAL DEPARTMENTS
My Child has BPD
My Parent/Sibling has BPD
My Significant Other has BPD
Recovering a Breakup
My Failing Romance
Endorsed Books
Archived Articles

RELATIONSHIP TOOLS
How to Stop Reacting
Ending Cycle of Conflict
Listen with Empathy
Don't Be Invalidating
Values and Boundaries
On-Line CBT Program
>> More Tools

MESSAGEBOARD GENERAL
Membership Eligibility
Messageboard Guidelines
Directory
Suicidal Ideation
Domestic Violence
ABOUT US
Mission
Policy and Disclaimers
Professional Endorsements
Wikipedia
Facebook

BPDFamily.org

Your Account
Settings

Moderation Appeal
Become a Sponsor
Sponsorship Account


Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!