Bill Eddy class on parenting time resistance/refusal

[kells76]

Just saw this today: https://www.highconflicttraining.com/offers/SiKAUUrq/checkout

The course description sounds good:

This 1-hour on demand course looks at research that helps explain what may be going on in a child’s brain as a child becomes resistant to seeing a parent in separation and divorce.

From neurons and developing synapses to emotional intensity and repetition, it addresses several questions that mystify professionals and parents alike in the area of alienation (estrangement, resistance and refusal):

Why does alienation and realistic estrangement look so similar on the surface?
Why does resistance and refusal usually take hold between ages 9 and 13?
Why are an alienated child’s reasons for rejecting a parent so lame or minor?
Why is the child’s view of a rejected parent so pure rather than having some ambivalence?

I hadn't thought of those questions before, but we experienced all of them.

At $25 I might sign up. Will be interested to hear if anyone else here tries it, too.

[EyesUp]

Thanks for posting.

For $25 I'm tempted, but I can already see what's next:  Analysis of the dynamics, good insights, and then when the credits roll... little or no actionable information for a parent who's in it, right now.

While I know that every situation is unique and requires careful consideration, and I don't expect magic bullets, I'm a bit burned out on the PA Industrial Complex that extracts $$ from people who are at an emotional (and often financial) low point.

Eddy's work has been helpful to me, and I've gladly paid for his books.  But $25 for a 60 minute streaming video?  How about a $5 donation for a PDF of the transcript, which can prob be read in 20 minutes.

Bill deserves to be paid for his work, but this feels a bit cash grabby. 

[kells76]

It's a fair point that those of us who have lived in and through it (you and I included) are over hearing theory and are ready for "specifics for my situation or I'm showing you the door".

It would be refreshing if a course or book was like "you know what, it's kind of like cancer treatment -- chemo/radiation works for many people but for some it doesn't, and we don't know why, and we're sorry if it doesn't work for you and we don't have a ton of other actionable ideas" -- where the issue isn't that you didn't understand the theory well enough, or didn't do the boilerplate actions correctly enough, it's just... sometimes the approaches don't work for a particular situation and nobody can really pinpoint why or what a viable alternative is.

I think I'll still give it a watch and review it here. If HCI has a feedback option I'll definitely provide it. My baseline approach for resistance/refusal was Dr Craig Childress' stuff, so the bar to clear is -- what new actionable approach does HCI provide above and beyond that.

[EyesUp]

Thanks, Kells - I look forward to your review!

fwiw, I get the sense that Eddy positions this material to fellow practitioners rather than to their clients... 

[kells76]

I get the sense that Eddy positions this material to fellow practitioners rather than to their clients... 

That would be an interesting perspective, then -- I hope the class isn't training professionals on how to suggest that your clients do XYZ, because then we're back at square one, where the issue isn't "I need to learn how to tell them to do this", the issue is: is XYZ effective?

Looks like I have weekend plans!