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« on: February 10, 2017, 01:00:36 PM »

My daughter has been diagnosed with BPD for 3 years now 25
I am suffering with trauma, depression now chronic anxiety and have to have counselling because of her.
I actually admit that I hate her sometimes and feel so guilty and confused,
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Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
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« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2017, 02:22:19 PM »

Hi Saskia,

I know how you feel. I felt angry all of the time. My D19 has put me through so much over the past 7 years. She was originally diagnosed with ODD that they said she'd grow out of. Then when things only got worse and her emotions were too much to bear they told me she had BPD and abandonment issues. She tells many lies, has broken all of the rules known to parenting. Its a shame. I once told my daughter that my mom had nothing and couldn't really do much for me, but I am grateful for all that she did and could never disrespect her in any way. Her answer to me... ."well I'm not you!"

Its sad to go through so many things with her. When she left it just got worse. At least for me. The constant worry. The person she is living with is enabling her lifestyle of using pot and doing nothing. I refuse to help her financially. He wont repair her phone, replace her glasses. Not sure what is in her mind that makes her stay with someone like that. 
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« Reply #2 on: February 11, 2017, 04:36:34 PM »

Hi Saskia

Welcome to the parents forum.  I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with and going through, the good folk here understand and can support you, you are not alone. 

What kind of behaviours are you dealing with Saskia, what's making you feel afraid?

WDx 


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