Hi Blocked1233 and

That sounds like a huge shock. I think anyone would be reeling after going through that whirlwind; I'm sorry it's happening to you, and I know it wasn't what you wanted for your marriage.
Do the two of you have any children (of your own, or shared between you two)?
Are you still living at home, and your wife is living somewhere else? Do you know where?
And are you still seeing the therapist?
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Keep posting, reading, and sharing here, as little or as much as you need... we'll be here.