Valentine's Day has me thinking

[bus boy]

I went along through the day pretty good. Had a big snow storm yesterday, couldn't move out most of the day, driveway plugged with snow and my road still isn't plowed. My dad opened up my road and plowed my driveway. I told him to send the province a bill for making a cut down my road . On my way to town people were calling in Valentine's Day wishes on the radio saying what they loved about there partners. I never thought of today being what it was, last year was very painful but I am progressing in my emotional detachment. A woman called in and said how thoughtful her husband was and of course my brain started thinking. I'm not feeling down but emotions are flowing. Everything that woman said when she called in was everything I did for my Xw but no matter what I did I was never there for her. Xw took pleasure in never validating and I was craving validation so she made sure I never got any. I worked very hard and was proud to be a hard worker I would work my day job and in the evening run a load of logs to the sawmill, 5 hr round trip, I wouldn't eat, would get home around 1:00am, never a plate of supper set aside, on night I got home and she met me at the door, my heart was filled with happiness bc I asked her many times why she never asked about my day when I got home she would say why bother, your going to tell me anyway, so when she came to the door I was elated, she looked at me and said your late, turned around and went back to bed. She never commented on my work ethic only once when I was crumbling mentally and was unable to work she made sure to tell me I was lazy. My friend and I cut 2 tractor trailer loads of logs, he came to my house to pay me, he told Xw what a cutter I was and good worker Xw just sat there and said nothing she had a look of disgust in her eyes. I did my horse crap for sure but I was a good kind man to Xw. Listening to the radio today got my mind thinking for sure.

[Curiously1]

Hi busboy,
It's great when we hear about other people truly appreciating their partners and not just for shallow reasons.
Perhaps when these things make us feel good we can look forward to meeting thoughtful and appreciative partners much like the one you have described. When I see my friends healthier relationships I think the same way. The way they treat each other is much more loving and equal and that is nice to see.