Hello

[Wanda]

  :hi:Well remember me??  
Well I’ve known about my husbands bpd for as long as we’ve been married .
Things were bad and over the years got better.
Now we are going on 29 years of marriage
And he is going in for surgery Nov sencond
But he went off his happy pill he took mainly for back pain
But it was also for anxiety . Never believed he had a problem.
He helped me rsise the kids snd I just worked those tools and skills
Here we are I’m 65 he’ll be 62
And he went manic. It has been a hell of a week to the point I tempory live with my sister. And divorce looks possible
I finally called his dr that took him off letting them know about his manic state. Turns out he never took him off. Ok???
He called me 45 times my voice mail box is full .
The dr plans to call today due to needing a phyc release before surgery. Talk about anger.
he has been on face book leaving a video on face book bashing people due to not having a problem . Or just about the world . They say when u get older bpd can get worse . So now im in a delima a divorce at 65? _____ I’m to old for this .

[ForeverDad]

And he went manic. It has been a hell of a week to the point I temporary live with my sister. And divorce looks possible
I finally called his dr that took him off letting them know about his manic state. Turns out he never took him off. Ok???
So now im in a dilemma a divorce at 65? _____ I’m to old for this.

One lesson to take to heart... You cannot simply trust what your spouse says.  We don't know why he said the doc stopped his med due to the upcoming surgery, perhaps it was his own perception or just nerves?

Only you can decide whether to take the divorce path, but it is not right for you to suffer.  Will things calm down after the surgery and some recovery time?  Whatever you decide, it may be that you'll have to place yourself as #1 priority.

As the air crew always advises before every flight... In case of emergency, put on your own mask FIRST before attempting to help others.

[Wanda]

Well it’s me again
 ubpd found out yesterday that his surgery has to be postpone he wasn’t suppose to be taken off med . You think

[CC43]

Hi there,

I recently went through something similar in my family.  A family member decided to stop taking her meds (for high blood pressure) because of an upcoming medical procedure (dental work).  As a result, she had a medical emergency, was rushed to the hospital for treatment, and sure enough she was told she needed to take her medications as prescribed.  She might have mistakenly thought the meds would have some sort of adverse reaction after her procedure, that she didn't need the meds anymore, or whatever.  We asked why she didn't call her doctor or pharmacist to ask questions, but she couldn't explain it.  She just decided to stop her meds.

The moral of the story is that she's not entirely mentally equipped to handle her own health care, but she's not really prepared to sign over authority to a loving family member, either.  The takeaway is that we have to remain vigilant, but also that she's going to do whatever she wants, and that's a tricky situation to be in, for as long as she's considered competent to make her own decisions.

[Wanda]

My husband went off  his one med he was told he needed to
The nurse said we never said that
Due to like u said all the risks involved
I guess he took it well but due to I have him blocked and he wants to talk I don’t know. .
Dr said same thing he is competent and can do what he wants
Primary dr    he took me off everything
But like my daughter and I talking the past year even on this med he was giving us signs of he needs something eles .
When time come to tell him this he won’t do it.
And I can’t deal with it any more never cried yet
More sad about my animals .