I'm all over the place over the last few days.
How long have you been out of the relationship?
My ex has been out of the house for a year now. I still have days when I feel all over the place. I don't want him back. I cannot and will not ever be in a relationship with him again. However, having said that, it takes a lot of time to wrap your mind around this stuff. Most days are fine. I don't think about him. I don't want him. Yet, the pain of what he said and did still lingers. It is going to take time to process that pain.
I just want her in my arms. I'm pathetic.
Can you think about why you want her in your arms? What did having her in your arms mean to you?
I don't see it as pathetic. You gave a part of yourself to this person. I think it is more normal to continue to desire somebody that you had strong feelings for than it is to be able to walk away and not look back. You have to process all of those conflicting feelings. It is so hard to sort it all out and realize that you can't have the good without the bad. There were a lot of good things about ex yet there were also things about him that were not okay. I don't think I made a lot of progress until I was able to see that I couldn't have the good without the bad. The bad was too much for me to be able to handle. It wasn't good for me and it wasn't good for my kids.
It isn't likely that she will be able to understand. Even if she were to come running back, it would likely be the beginning of the same cycle. It might be great for a while. She might act like she understood for a while and things might be great. And then. . .it would be rinse, wash, repeat. I was with my ex for almost 20 years. I spent a lot of years where I would talk to him and tell him what I wanted and needed. He would nod and tell me everything I wanted to hear only to go back to doing the same stuff he had been doing. I deluded myself into listening to his words rather than his actions for years. I think it is okay to let yourself think about still wanting them as long as you don't act on it.
The longer you go without contact, the easier it will be to continue to move forward.