Clearly, the door to staying in the house is closing, the court will probably grant her motion. Of course, don't quietly fold, object in court to her claims of abuse or whatever. Probably too you could ask the court she be the one to find an apartment since she probably can't afford the house long term nor pay you back your equity in it. Sadly, the court won't care whether she's a golddigger or not. However, court ought to agree this was a short marriage and you do not want a divorce needlessly and expensively stretched out over years. (And defend yourself from false allegations, of course.)
You already knew she was manipulating her children, that she wouldn't let you take them to school or wherever. She has predictably blacklisted you to them and they may be unable to withstand her determined rewriting of history. While you don't want to enabler her in doing that, you must also accept that legally you have no status in their lives. You were stepparent but that has ended.
Now that this fork in the road has arrived, move forward, don't wallow in the shoulda couldas. Find a place both safe and convenient for you and your sons.
I think this is exactly where my head is at right now. I really feel like the house is just that, a house. If my uBPDw makes a fair offer for my house and I can find another house closer to where my boys mother lives (granted right now I'm less that 4 miles from her house) I think I'd welcome the new start. In my mind at this point a healthy environment away from my uBPDw is the best thing I can do for my boys and I and the sooner I can make that happen, the sooner the REAL healing and growing can start.
