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« on: March 20, 2017, 07:04:32 AM »

My dd will likely come home today or tomorrow.  She is taking Invega. The hospital has not been helpful. No real therapy just psych treating the symptoms. No one has a dx just that she was out of touch with reality when admitted 13 days ago. She has been silent, angry and now seems rational but I can't shake the feeling we will repeat the process. She has agreed to counseling with me so we can communicate better. How long that lasts I don't know. Husband says he won't go. I'm just sad.
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« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2017, 01:20:53 PM »

Hi 7babies,

It's alright to be sad. I'm sorry your husband doesn't want to go to counseling with you and your daughter.  I imagine he's pretty overwhelmed by all this.  This kind of situation (like any other kind of health crisis) is not what most parents envision themselves signing up for as parents.

I think it's important that you get counseling.  Even just for yourself.  Ideally it would be best to get support from a professional that has a competent understanding of this disorder but support is better than no support.

You described your daughter as "high achieving," "#1 in her class", "homecoming queen" in your intro post.  It might be helpful for you to know that for people with BPD (pwBPD), often they exhibit "splitting" or black and white thinking.  That is, for pwBPD, they will see other people (including themselves) as being "all good" or "all bad."

So I wonder if she's been working so hard as a "high achiever" as an effort to avoid seeing herself as "all bad." But no matter what she accomplishes, she continues to feel damaged or broken in some way; for pwBPD it's either "all" or "nothing." This may be part of what she is struggling with.

Best wishes,

Schwing
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