Hi Bobbi,
I'm really glad you reached out for help, and I'm sorry this post wasn't replied to in a timely manner. You've found a great place for support and hope. Things can get better for you. I've been in your shoes, and sometimes the pressure to make the "right" decision just makes me shut down. Your feelings are totally understandable; you have every right to feel that you want a healthier relationship. And your insight that that would start with work on yourself is a great one, in my opinion.
I've read your posts and see that your boyfriend recently broke up with you.
What happened, and how do things stand at the moment between you?
Hang in there. We are here for you.
heartandwhole