Rough night...

[Lalathegreat]

An update for those playing along at home... .

One of the things I find myself struggling with the most in this relationship are the self destructive choices I make trying to cope. Last night that meant a bottle of Chardonnay and a night spent puking everything I'd eaten since 1984. Stupid, yes indeed.

Stupid as an act - oh yes... .but made entirely more stupid because it gave pwBPD many things to focus on that had nothing to do with the original issues from last night. And exhausted and hungover I did not have the wherewithal to use the tools, and ended up in a 2 hour circular argument that only ended when (out of desperation) conceded to a bunch of his crap - the most damaging being that I selfishly put my needs above his own and behaved in a passive aggressive, manipulative manner.

And since then things have improved somewhat. The day has been relatively smooth. Although I am a more aware than ever that my pwBPD is quite the elitist bully. We are in a small coastal town and he has made digs about the lack of culture, lack of decent dining and shopping, the intelligence of the general public, and a few choice words directed towards the overweight.

2 more days... .

[formflier]

     

Can you put some thought to the choice to engage in a circular argument?  I understand the lack of desire to use tools... .I've been there.  We've all been there.

In those instances, staying quiet is usually a good choice.  Thoughts on how you made the choice to engage the argument?

FF

[Grey Kitty]

Can you go home early, either with him or without him?