This might seem a bit stupid but I am struggling with it. Friend has a girlfriend and they seem to be doing well; I like her, I'm happy for him and it seems all ok. She knows he's not so easy, etc. I don't allow triangulation, and it isn't really a problem anyway. It's really a nice situation. But one thing I struggle with is their kissing and fondling - she doesn't do it, but he does. I've made it clear that I don't like it when they visit me, and I tell her it's because I want my place to be neutral ground. It is true, but it is only part of the answer. I suppose I might be feeling jealous - but I don't really know why. I don't WANT to have that kind of contact to him, at least not with my reasoning self. As I don't have children - do mothers feel like that when their sons have girlfriends? I just want him to be an asexual being in my presence.
I don't know how to deal with it, especially because I notice emotion and unpredictability behind my reactions.
He is doing so well and I do want that to continue.
Dont invite them if they/he doesnt respect your feelings.
