Introduction

[Alporz]

Good morning, I am currently reading the book "Walking on Eggshells" and decided to come online for support.  I have said for over a year that I feel like I live in a twilight zone.  My wife and I have been seeing a marriage therapist for over 6 months, along with that she has been seeing our therapist on her own, and I have been seeing a separate therapist in the same office.
Regardless of the therapists that I feel like we employ full time, my wife has been (self) diagnosed with PTSD as she placed a child for adoption at the age of 17 and was never able to deal with the grief.  For 13 years it has been bottled up and now along with ripping the bandaid off the wounds, the child is now an ever present focus in our life.  This causes bouts of depression from my wife and lots of time and focus away from our two little kids and I. 
My reason for starting therapy over 1 year ago was because I thought I was going crazy, I needed (and still want) to know whether or not our daily struggles of getting out of bed at 10:00 am (when I rise at 5am), tiny arguments which make no sense, extreme highs and lows, and basically feeling like I drive with the "e" breaks on is normal.  It was suggested that I read a few books on codependency (for myself) which was fantastic and insightful in my own way of approaching things.  It was also suggested to me to read Walking on Eggshells, which was tremendously enlightening to read for our relationship.  It is also important to note that in the last 3 months my sister in law was diagnosed with BPD and was at an impatient facility for 1 months followed by 6 weeks of IOP. 
I feel like I am continuously going crazy and battle with whether or not it is best for the best to stay or leave every day, really every 30 minutes. 
Dialogue helps, I hope this support brings insight and hope to bring insight to anyone else, if possible.
Thank you for the opportunity to grow... .

[Turkish]

Some traits of BPD and PTSD overlap.  My mother was diagnosed with both.  The Dx may provide a baseline, but it's the behaviors with which we need to deal. 

Are you in contact with her child,  or is your wife dealing with only her feelings regarding this?