Hi strong enough ,
I'm sorry that MC has been so difficult. MC going badly is not uncommon for BPD relationships. ONe reason is that in order for marriage counseling to work, both people need to be able to admit their own mistakes and begin making progress towards fixing themselves. For someone with BPD, their shame often will prevent them from even acknowledging their own wrong because it's easier for them to blame others for their problems instead.
Do you think your marriage counselor is trying to tell you in a polite why that counseling just isn't working? Have you had the chance to talk to the MC privately about BPD?
Here's a link to one of our articles on marriage counseling and BPD:
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https://bpdfamily.org/2010/08/why-marriage-counseling-so-often-fails.html