My BPD/NPD spouse sometimes loses sense of timing and common sense

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi all,

My BPD/NPD spouse sometimes loses a sense of timing.  He used to have normal capabilities, but after what I call a "breakdown," when his behavior became really severe, he had cognitive losses.  For instance, he can no longer estimate the time it will take for particular tasks to be accomplished  --  not even a good ballpark estimate.  He gets us in trouble all the time over that one.  Or, he simply judges things very poorly, such as what we do or do not need to buy for the household, or what the kids will need for something planned.  He just doesn't seem to be able to anticipate the needs anymore, and how you would meet those.  No, this is not dementia.  There were a few instances of it over the years, but then with his breakdown, these cognitive losses became a regular occurrence.  

Familiar to anyone?

FD

[FlawedDesign]

Hi all,

My BPD/NPD spouse sometimes loses a sense of timing.  He used to have normal capabilities, but after what I call a "breakdown," when his behavior became really severe, he had cognitive losses.  For instance, he can no longer estimate the time it will take for particular tasks to be accomplished  --  not even a good ballpark estimate.  He gets us in trouble all the time over that one.  Or, he simply judges things very poorly, such as what we do or do not need to buy for the household, or what the kids will need for something planned.  He just doesn't seem to be able to anticipate the needs anymore, and how you would meet those.  No, this is not dementia.  There were a few instances of it over the years, but then with his breakdown, these cognitive losses became a regular occurrence.  

Familiar to anyone?

FD

[Tattered Heart]

My H is exactly like this. He cannot plan well at all. He either over estimates or under estimates timing by hours sometimes. When working on projects around the house, he thinks he can just wing it and the stuff he needs to complete the project will just magically appear (or he has it lying around somewhere) and when he can't find what he needs to complete it, the project goes unfinished for weeks or even months. He cannot follow a schedule, instructions, recipes, a shopping list, etc. I think part of it has to do with the poor executive control that comes with having BPD. The other part is that he doesn't like being told what to do. 

[FlawedDesign]

Tattered Heart,

I hear you.  I don't dare suggest anything when he is like this, or WWIII will break out.  I pick up the pieces after.

FD