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My 25-year old BPD son refuses to accept that our financial situation has changed significantly (loss of job) and demands to be supported financially as we've done before. Expresses anger, rage and threatens suicide. He's been unable to hold a job.
How can we get to him and make him understand that we are unable to provide the same level of financial support to him going forward?

[Nenne]

My 25-year old BPD son refuses to accept that our financial situation has changed significantly (loss of job) and demands to be supported financially as we've done before. Expresses anger, rage and threatens suicide. He's been unable to hold a job.
How can we get to him and make him understand that we are unable to provide the same level of financial support to him going forward?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Lollypop]

Hi nenne

I'm sorry you've got an adult son that resists taking responsibility for himself. I know just how infuriating and painfully confusing that can be. I was always doing things for my son26 that he should have done for himself. I don't do that anymore.

I passed the responsibility for his life into his lap where it belongs. I got to working on myself (see top right hand side of this page) and learning how to have a good life myself.

Does your son live at home with you?

Lp