So... .make a list of all the tactics that have NOT worked... .stop them.
Make a list of what has worked... .double down.
If I understand correctly... .litigation worked. I'm assuming there was not a settlement, but a decision in court. Correct?
If so, remember that. Make sure and build in "consequences" and "guidelines" into future litigation.
Perhaps... .all agreements via email. If there is no response to email withing x amount of time... .some sort of automatic thing that benefits things you care about.
Thanks FF. Yes, I run into the no-response thing frequently as well. She has a pretty active fight or flight response regardless of how easy the problem is to resolve. I'll try putting in consequences to non-responses. I suspect that will engender resentment and anger but worth a shot.
Here's what's worked in some cases:
- Not telling her what I want and asking her what she wants.
- Listening
- Validating her feelings
- Encouragement
- Litigation, although expensive.