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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: September 24, 2017, 10:42:08 PM »

I need advice. If you're not familiar with my story, my BPDex broke up with me 2 months ago and requested we remain friends. It's clear she still has feelings for me. My end game is to get back together with her. She's in a long distance relationship with someone else whom she sees maybe 3-4 days out of each month. I'm wearing an ankle monitor, so she's pretty comfortable knowing that I can't go out and do anything with other women. However, in 11 days I won't be wearing it anymore. She knows this and has clarified with me as to when I'm getting it taken off.

The last 6 weeks or so, it's been pleasant between us. We talk 5-6 days a week. She comes over here every so often, too. I probably do about 60% of the reaching out... .

There's a good chance she'll be carpooling with me to work if she gets hired at my job (which will probably happen).

Even though our interactions are always upbeat and calm, am I making myself too available to her? In 11 days should I cut back my communication with her? I'm very curious as to what our dynamic will look like in a month after I've had this thing off my leg for awhile.
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