BPD Daughter (19) and her Boyfriend

[adoptivemama]

Anyone have experience with a teen daughter who is BPD and who is abusing her boyfriend? I don't know whether to talk to the parents of this poor innocent boy who is putting up with way too much abuse!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi adoptivemama 

How is she abusing him,? We can help you work through. 

WDx 

[adoptivemama]

She tests him by saying things like "I'm ugly" or "I'm overweight" and he will try to reassure her, but he won't say what she wants him to say exactly right, so she will cuss him out and reject him, and then she regrets it and begs for forgiveness.