Son w BPD needs Residential Treatment

[K-mom]

Just got the diagnosis and beating myself up because I missed all the signs -- since childhood.  He is 18 and graduated HS.  My heart just breaks for him

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[JustYouWait]

Krystyn -

I'm sorry that you're going through this.  My DW and I just researched a ton of places for my BPDD, also 18.  She is currently in one.

As far as beating yourself up, for sure, I am in touch with that emotion... .we didn't recognize the signs either.  I stopped beating myself after I finally asked myself whether I was qualified to even look for the signs in the first place (spoiler alert:  I wasn't.) 

All of the signs in my DD case were obvious in hindsight, but heck, I didn't even know what half of them were called before I saw a definition and a word.

We did online research for long term (90 days or more) residential treatment facility, found about 20, whittled them down to 4-5 from online research, and called them.

We found that one stood out, and she's there now.

[K-mom]

thanks - we are looking at the same thing - a residential facility.  would you mind sharing which one your DD is at?

[JustYouWait]

thanks - we are looking at the same thing - a residential facility.  would you mind sharing which one your DD is at?

Wellspring in CT.

Although this is a female-only place.