43yr old daughter won't let me see my grandchildren

[Koona]

Two months ago because I am the " villain" my daughter refuses to let me see her 10 and 8 year old. Her ex-husband is scared of her. When he brings the subject up of me seeing them. She goes nuts. Threats  of ruining his life and keepin children from him. They have always been extremely close spending nights and getting lots after school time  I shutter as to what they must thing Would really want to hear from someone that has had this experience
And might have some ideas. Thanks

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi Koona

Welcome to bpdfamily, I'm sorry what brings you here, there are many grandparents and parents in your situation, who can provide you personal advice, you are not alone.  

Stepping out of your DD's and her husbands drama and fear can help you makes changes, to the right   are tools and lessons, is a good step forward. We can't change them, we can show them the way through our change.

Has your DD been diagnosed BPD?

We are here for you, keep posting and let us know how we can help.

WDx