This week was too good to be true

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I hadn't heard from my pwBPD all week - actually since Tuesday.  I did not call - text or reach out to him.  There were two 30 second phone calls from him - he was mad that I wasn't checking on him and truly before I could even respond, he would hang up on me. 

Today was a whole different story.  He had a week's worth of anger and rage built up inside him.
He called me earlier this am to tell me that he scheduled a meeting for himself today.  He said he didn't know what the client wanted but the client demanded to meet him.  He asked if the project was done and I said I didn't know the status at the moment but I could find out.  It wasn't an unpleasant conversation - pretty matter of fact.  He said he would be in shortly.  I got busy with my day and I lost track of time.  I realized that he wasn't here and the client was due to show up soon. It was weird - he called me right after I realized how late it was. He started yelling that I hadn't cancelled the meeting since I knew he wasn't feeling well.  I said that he didn't mention that during our last call.  He started making demands for money - for apologies - demanding I make it better.  I said that this isn't the time to talk about this, said goodbye and hung up. He showed up shortly after that when I was talking to the client.  He told the client that he wasn't feeling well and went on to say that I stole everything from him and he wasn't sure how long he would be around.  That I had made promises that I was unable to fulfill and he's done waiting.  Before anyone could say anything, he left. 

I am feeling quite horrified at the whole thing. The client was very nice - has known him for 20 years - made a few comments about him sometimes being in a bad mood and he was sure it would blow over. 

I am at a loss at the moment - I am trying to regain control over my thoughts - focus on something.  This simply can't continue. 

[coworkerfriend]

I hadn't heard from my pwBPD all week - actually since Tuesday.  I did not call - text or reach out to him.  There were two 30 second phone calls from him - he was mad that I wasn't checking on him and truly before I could even respond, he would hang up on me. 

Today was a whole different story.  He had a week's worth of anger and rage built up inside him.
He called me earlier this am to tell me that he scheduled a meeting for himself today.  He said he didn't know what the client wanted but the client demanded to meet him.  He asked if the project was done and I said I didn't know the status at the moment but I could find out.  It wasn't an unpleasant conversation - pretty matter of fact.  He said he would be in shortly.  I got busy with my day and I lost track of time.  I realized that he wasn't here and the client was due to show up soon. It was weird - he called me right after I realized how late it was. He started yelling that I hadn't cancelled the meeting since I knew he wasn't feeling well.  I said that he didn't mention that during our last call.  He started making demands for money - for apologies - demanding I make it better.  I said that this isn't the time to talk about this, said goodbye and hung up. He showed up shortly after that when I was talking to the client.  He told the client that he wasn't feeling well and went on to say that I stole everything from him and he wasn't sure how long he would be around.  That I had made promises that I was unable to fulfill and he's done waiting.  Before anyone could say anything, he left. 

I am feeling quite horrified at the whole thing. The client was very nice - has known him for 20 years - made a few comments about him sometimes being in a bad mood and he was sure it would blow over. 

I am at a loss at the moment - I am trying to regain control over my thoughts - focus on something.  This simply can't continue. 

[formflier]

  This simply can't continue.  

OK... .  

Is there anything unusual about this client?  Anything that would be of a personal nature or set them apart from other clients.

Any reason for your partner to "view" this client as something other that business?

OK... let's confirm.

In the presence of another person (this client) your business partner said.

1.  that he wasn't feeling well
2.  that you "stole everything" from him  (were there any specifics?)
3.  and then vaguely insinuated that he wouldn't be around or didn't know.

furthermore

He told this client that YOU had made promises that you wouldn't fulfill... .

Is there any part of that I have wrong?

I'm not an expert on libel/slander, my gut says he "skirted it" on this occasion, but perhaps the laws of your state are different.

You are in a business setting, trying to keep or get more business and someone tells (without any basis in fact), the person whose business you are trying to win, that you are untrustworthy (stealing and not keeping promises).

Perhaps it's not skirting it.  

YOU need to talk to a lawyer ASAP.  I would guess the lawyer would send a "cease and desist" letter immediately.  No more talking to anyone about you stealing or you not following promises.

You need to protect your business and your professional reputation right now... .right now.

   

I'm so sorry it has come to this.

FF

[Cat Familiar]

Frankly, I don't see much future to any relationship with him at this point. This is unconscionable. I agree with FF. I think it would be wise to move towards buying him out of his share of the business ASAP.

 

[formflier]

 
Any buyout should minimize a cash payout.

He should have an interest in the business thriving after he leaves.  Otherwise, why not go scorched earth.

Crystal clear language in the buyout... .he runs his mouth... .the value of his payout goes down.

FF