Have to decide...quick

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

cut a long story short-

Decision required -

- go with the new girl, attractive, decent, simple, good up bringing etc... .minimal thrill, nothing like the BPD ex highs

- take back the BPD who keeps begging to another chance, equally attractive, exciting but well ... .BPD

Differences - simple girl, u know what your gonna get, stability but much less excitement and passion

BPD - fun and torture all mixed, you never know what your gonna get, highs are high and lows are low

I know a rational minded person would probably chose the simple girl, but as you all know, once you have tasted that toxic poison it’s hard to come off it


I need to make a decision quick... .Anyone been here before? Any feedback?

[Confusedpe]

cut a long story short-

Decision required -

- go with the new girl, attractive, decent, simple, good up bringing etc... .minimal thrill, nothing like the BPD ex highs

- take back the BPD who keeps begging to another chance, equally attractive, exciting but well ... .BPD

Differences - simple girl, u know what your gonna get, stability but much less excitement and passion

BPD - fun and torture all mixed, you never know what your gonna get, highs are high and lows are low

I know a rational minded person would probably chose the simple girl, but as you all know, once you have tasted that toxic poison it’s hard to come off it


I need to make a decision quick... .Anyone been here before? Any feedback?

[TurbanCowboy]

The BPD route is like making a living playing Blackjack.

I love Blackjack as much as anyone, it’s not a careeer.

[zeus123]

Confusedpe, have to decide? And quick? Yes quick quick call your BPD quickly maybe she already changed her mind! Lol.

[Confusedpe]

Confusedpe, have to decide? And quick? Yes quick quick call your BPD quickly maybe she already changed her mind! Lol.

Lol it’s not her I’m worried about ... .

[Skip]

Neither... .you don't think highly of either women.

Let them find someone that makes sense for them. You should do the same.

Don't invest your life in people that aren't meaningful to you.

[Red5]

I need to make a decision quick... .

Confusedpe ... ."decision ?"... .if its not life threatening, career threatening, or finically threatening, .and this "quickie" is just based on your perceived need to have a steady GF... .then I would keep shopping.

The best decision is most times the one that is NOT made in haste.

Don't get off at either exit, KEEP driving !

Red5

[Lucky Jim]

Hey confused, A lot of us here have recycled, including me, only to end up in the same place down the line except with more pain, so I don't recommend jumping back into the ring w/your pwBPD.  When you play w/fire, you're likely to get burned.  From what you are saying, there's no chemistry with the new girl, as Skip suggests.  That's OK, and only means that you have more searching ahead of you.

LuckyJim

[Tattered Heart]

Red5 is right on the money. Relationships are not life or death scenarios. Leave some other options open, such as #3. Get yourself to a healthy place before choosing for or against any relationship. What's the hurry?