Hi mothrof3+2+2
I agree with
hyacinth bucket that it is perfectly reasonable to expect your daughter to help with the chores in order to earn money, she shouldn’t be getting a free ride, it’s not fair to your other kids and you have already very wisely recognised that.
hyacinth bucket has given you some excellent advice and I would like to follow on if I may by giving you the link to DEARMAN which she mentioned:
D.E.A.R.M.A.N. TechniqueYou might also like to take a look at Communicate Boundaries & Limits in the TOOLS section on the right