Hi
momshouseYou are most welcome. Your daughter is spiralling, struggling, 3 jobs, 2 accidents, so much happening over this last year…… what struck me is when you say she reaches out to you for
reassurance she knows she's out of control and can't stop it, you are there for her, this is important. It can be very scary to stop, stop still and accept it's not working, my DD arrived at that point, exhausted by it all one day she stood still (she'd hit the wall) by which time she was in so much pain nothing else mattered apart from releasing her pain through treatment and learning new ways to live a life that works for her, measured and calm as possible, she's in control.
It's the most natural thing to do, to keep on going and no wonder your daughter wants to take up grad school, she's bright. I think offering the treatment and offering her reassurance it's there (as you are too) when ever she decides it'd be helpful for her,
keeps the door wide open , places the responsibility and opportunity for your daughter to make the decision when she is ready. As we know they have to be ready and accepting, our situations are unique. Perhaps she has to fall out of grad school to get to that point?
So you are looking at what behaviours you are reinforcing eg bailing her out financially after a success? Can you share an example? You are not alone. there.
Looking to hear how others feel about and deal with financesIt's helpful to step back and think these things through, see if changing our approach, focus may help.
My biggest takeaway from my situation is my girl needed to hear I was listening, that she'd get through treatment, she could do this, it's not a race, life will be there waiting for her when she's ready and I'm walking with her every single step. Reassurance and hope.
Does your daughter live at home?
WDx