No support

[Pinacoloda1]

As well as my grown daughter who was diagnosed with BPD,i have a son who lives several states away from us stationed in the airforce,and no,he is not at all a support person.  For as long as i can remember he stayed to himself mostly even as a child,a (i don't wanna hear it) type of person.  And yes even when it concerns family... maybe he feels helpless living so far from home?  And besides that,if she found out i talked to him about her disorder,she would go ballistic on me!  Which i try to avoid...
Anyways both my parents are deceased,i have no friends i chum around with... it's just me and my daughter...
She does go to therapy but who can i talk to?
I am an extremely sensitive person with anxiety
which makes this all the harder to deal with...
I need a hug...

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[bluek9]

PINACOLODA1     

    Welcome to this place, so happy you are here, so sad you have had to find us. I can share with you I'm alone too, no support, no family, other sibling doesn't want to hear it either. That said I'm here for you, so are many other parents! This place is my only support, and I need it to make it through some days. My D just turned 36, she has always lived with me and I'm raising my grandson, he has always been with me too.
   Is this diagnosis new to you? How much do you know so far? Yes I can totally relate to the statement "she would go ballistic on me, which I try to avoid". Again   hugging you. Please keep posting, let us know how you're doing, what you need. Take care of you first.

[wendydarling]

Pinacoloda1, hello again ~ and here's a big warm hug from me, sorry you're really feeling it right now       as bluek9 says this is a place of safety, kindness and understanding, we are all here for each others. I can imagine it's hard for your son being so far away. I recall you saying in another thread your DD was diagnosed over a month ago, it's all so new and can be overwhelming. How's your daughter taken the diagnosis?

Sending you more virtual hugs, you are not alone   

WDx

[Feeling Better]

I would like to say “hello again” Pinacoloda1, your posts have really touched me, I’m so very sorry that you find yourself on your own without any support. Having said that, you will find lots of support here and the best thing is that you can come here any time of day or night 

I think a lot of us here probably struggle to get support away from this board mainly because others just don’t get what we are going through

How much contact do you currently have with your son?

Have you ever thought about therapy for yourself? I ask because I found therapy extremely helpful and validating when I undertook it.

Sending you more hugs (we can never have too many)     

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[wendydarling]

Hi Pinacoloda1 

How are you feeling today?  Is all quiet on the home front?  

WDx

[SkellyII]

Hi Pinacoloda1,

I can really relate to you. I'm an older single dad and my parents and most other relatives have passed away. My ex is probably BPD and is also an alcoholic, so there's no support on that side.

While I'm fortunate to have several friends who understand mental health issues, what has really helped me has been joining a local BPD family support group. Just being able to share with other parents going through the same issues has been really comforting for me. Maybe there's one near you? If not, please seek your own therapy. You really need to take care of yourself, before trying to take care of others. I've learned that the hard way.