My son is in a relationship with a woman that has BPD She is trying to put a wed

[tinybubbles123]

Do I tell my son that I suspect his girlfriend has BPD

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[bluek9]

   WELCOME  GERTRDE DOUGLAS,

           You have posed a very good question. Do you think it would possible for you to share a little more with us? How old is your son and this woman? What makes you think she is BPD?
Sometimes it can be hard to support a member without knowing a little more. Please, when you feel comfortable enough post again so we can better know how to support and encourage you.

[Merlot]

Hi Gertrude Douglas

You're question no doubt comes from a place of love and concern.  Like bluek9, I would be interested to know what you're dealing with and what led you to the bpdfamily.

I hope that you have been able to avail yourself to information on the board to the right   Hopefully you this will assist you in reconciling the issues you're being faced with and some strategies for dealing with supporting your son. 

While you may have view about what to say to your son, I encourage you to explore what is driving you to that conclusion and the consequences of saying that to your son.  You know him better than anyone else... .he may take it well or he may feel that you are trying to drive a wedge.

For me, the best support to your son, is to be as supportive as you can when and if he talks to you about her, helping him to explore his own feelings about any relationship issues he may be experiencing.  We cannot chose our children's partners but we can always be there for them, lending and ear and gently guiding.

Please keep sharing, there is so much wealth of experience and support for you.

Merlot