New to BPD, my 21yr son recently told me he thinks he has BPD

[Chukkee]

Hi. My 21 yo son has recently told me he thinks he has BPD. He had been diagnosed with inattentive ADD when he was 15. After reading about BPD I agree it sounds like him. He will get some psych testing soon to confirm.
I guess I need to know how and where to start my new journey of setting new boundaries with him. He is at college, just got arrested for taking 4 xanax and driving-speeding. Thank you

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

Hello Chukkee and welcome to BPD Family 

You have come to the right place to learn all about BPD and setting new boundaries with your son. If you haven't already done so, I recommend clicking the links on the right side of the boards - there's a wealth of information there to get you started. It's also helpful to read posts from other parents and to post about your situation to get support. I'm so grateful I've found this place!

How does your son feel about the diagnosis? My DD25 accepts it, embraces it even. At this moment, she's not taking any steps to manage her personality disorder so her life is chaotic. I'm learning that I must take care of myself as the number one priority and I encourage you to do the same.

This place is full of supportive parents who understand. I'm glad you found us.

~ OH

[wendydarling]

Hello Chukkee

I join Only Human, welcome, welcome to you.

Wow, your son has shared he thinks he has BPD is what parents here want to hear, work towards. You are in a good place, here with us!

Where to start our learning, is here, take your good, gentle time, and always ask us questions, join our conversations
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Lessons: What a parent can do?

I've been where you are, catching up with my DD, when they know and they share.

WDx

[Feeling Better]

Hi Chukkee,

I would like to join Only Human and wendydarling in welcoming you here 

How wonderful that your son has confided in you that he suspects he has BPD, it takes great courage on his part and he obviously trusts you and I guess is also looking to you for support.

I am really glad that you have come here to better educate yourself about setting good boundaries, don’t forget, boundaries are about you and your values. There is a wealth of information to be found here and of course other members who can offer help and support x