my daughter is cruel to me, cuts out of her life, comes back into my life

[ccoldren]

My daughter is cruel to me... she cuts me out of her life... .comes back into my life ... .threatens to cut me out every month... .blames me for things that i don't do. has destroyed my relationship with my oldest son and has tried to destroy my relationship with my other kids... I have 5... .Now she has a daughter, who is my granddaughter, andconstantkly threatens to take her away from me.  the latest reason for her cuting me out and then making unreasonabke demands if i wnat to keep seeign my grandaighter is for the folloiwng... .my daughter and her husband had to work halloween eveiniing... .i drove 2.5 hours to pick uo my 1-year-old granddaughter... i made her costume... .took a day off from work the next day so ii could keep overnight... .my daughter requested pictures which i took alot of... but the pictures were not a full body protrait style so she became enraged, threatened to take my grandaughter away... .has made all kinds of accusations about me, has made unreassoable demands going forward to see my grandauhter and that our relationship is not possible... .two years ago she cut me out of her wedding because i suggested we see a few more venues befroe making a decision... .i am at my wits end... i am not sure i can take any more of this torture... .but my mother is borderline and i know what her daughter will endure and my daughter is pregnant with a second daughter... .i dont want to leave my grandaughters to this terrible fate but not sure i can handle this punishment by my daughter much more... .she will not go to counsling and is a very cruel human being... help

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[Only Human]

Hi ccoldren 

I'm so sorry your daughter is using your love for your granddaughter as a way to punish you. I've been there, am there right now, and it's torture, as you say.

I must get ready for work, I just wanted to welcome you to BPD Family and tell you that you've come to the right place for support and to vent.

~ OH

[once removed]

hi ccoldren, i want to join Only Human and say

wow. youre kinda going through the wringer with your daughter, huh? you sound exhausted. im glad you reached out for support. in addition to reaching out here, do you have other support in your life, from friends or family, a therapist?

how old is your daughter and how long has this kind of conflict been going on between the two of you?