New here, really upset

[Galadriel]

Hello,

I'm new here. I left a domestic violence marriage in 2015, but this year I have come to realize through a therapist, and educating myself, that my adult daughter probably has BPD. It's Christmas and I'm alone, no emotional support, and I had to call the police for the second time in a month. This time she took pills, but not enough to do anything except make her nauseous, but they treated her in the hospital anyway to be safe. The police put a 5150 hold into effect so right now she is on hold at a psychiatric facility. I'm just so tired. I'm shaking from nerves/fear/sadness. I won't go into all she has done, but suffice it to say that she is verbally and physically abusive and seems to have PMDD because the worst behaviors are always 2-3 days before or during a period.

I just want peace so badly, but not at the expense of her life. I'm tired of lawyers from the divorce, police, the whole thing. When she isn't around a menstrual cycle she isn't suicidal, but she has a lot of BPD traits. There are also autistic traits. She has no friends and just quit her part time job after working there for almost two years. She is just getting worse and worse.

Thank you for listening.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

I am so very sorry for everything you are going through. It sounds awful. But you have definitely come to the right place for support and you are certainly not alone. I am praying for you.

[FaithHopeLove]

Hello Galadriel,
I love your name. Is it from Lord of the Rings? I am so sorry for everything you are going through. It sounds like everything is hitting all at once. I can relate to what you say about wanting peace but not wanting it to come at the expense of your daughter's life. You have definitely come to the right place. I am also fairly new and I find there is so much love and support here. You are not alone. It is good you are in therapy. So am I. I think the best thing we can do for our children is take care of ourselves.

[Harri]

Hi.

I am glad you reached out to us here.  You've been through a lot.  We have many parents here who can relate and help support you through this. 

Does your daughter live with you?  You mentioned she physically abuses you.  When was the last time?  How do you respond when this happens?  Sorry for all the questions, I am trying to get a good picture of your situation. 

I hope as you feel more comfortable you will share and read and post in other threads.  You can get a lot by posting on this site.  We understand as so many of our parents have walked or are walking a similar path. 

[Only Human]

Hello Galadriel,

I join FaithHopeLove and Harri in welcoming you to BPD Family.

We are all here with you and can provide you with emotional support. I'm glad you are here, we've got you 

~ OH