Hi
Jane7 
I'd like to joing
once removed in welcoming you to BPD family.
You've come to the right place to learn new ways to communicate with your daughter, we are all learning together and supporting each other in our efforts.
My daughter and her 4 year old son live with me so I understand the unique struggle that comes with that. With the help of family here, as well as the articles and lessons, I'm learning how to end the cycle of conflict and support my daughter while also taking care of myself. Not to say it's been easy, no, but you're well on your way with your decision to reach out for support - we can't do this alone and we don't have to.
I look forward to hearing more from you, I'm glad you're here.
~ OH