hello

[lark265]

It was hard for me to choose my posting "status".  Is the relationship really over?  Would you want it to reconcile?  Do you just not like losing?  And it all gets more complex b/c we have two kids together (ages 12 and 9).  I have been dumped before, but not quite like this.  I moved out a few years ago due to the raging.  It was impossible to live with.  Maybe I should have stayed - I guess I may never know for sure.  I can still hear my 4 year-old daughter on the driveway as I was driving away, "Daddy come back."  But I stayed away.  If I am not there, no raging.  There can be a day-to-day life.  And our kids are OK today.  Not great, but OK.  Sorry, I just ran out of words.  Or the emotions are closing in...I'll be back.

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[SunandMoon]

Hi Lark265 and welcome 

It's okay, take your time. We have been there and know how painful these relationships are. This is a safe place to talk.

You said you moved out a few years ago. Are you back living together now?